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The Psychology of Catching Him and Keeping Him

It’s a fact that most men don’t know how to date.

I know that’s quite the bold statement but you know that it’s true. Your knowledge could have come from a past failed relationship or you could be dating a guy now and the romance is going nowhere.

I’ll qualify my statement above by adding “most men don’t know how dating progresses”.

Look back and think for a minute:
Your last failed relationship likely had something to do with the guy’s inability to see into the future, a future with you, and a future that you could see clearly. You were on unequal ground. You became incompatible.
And that was it, you had to end it. If he can’t see how dating is supposed to progress into something more, then you were right to dump him.

But let’s look at this a little more carefully:
You could see that he couldn’t see any future together.
Did you make a move to steer him in the proper direction?
Did you take the lead in the relationship?
Were you able to establish more than physical intimacy?

Again, most men don’t know how to date. Even the “players” are fooling themselves into thinking that a date and physical interaction is the end of the encounter.

Sure enough, you meet a guy, go out with him to see how compatible the both of you are and take the next dating steps from there. But are you following his lead? Is this the right thing to do?
It is only if the man can see into the future, a future that includes you.

When you find yourself heading towards the “exclusive” period of dating a guy, he’s just starting to figure out where you’re both headed. At this point you need to give him time and space to sort out the relationship details, how you’ll move forward together. How he feels about this progression.

Of course, if you are compatible, and the man is like 90% of all other men out there (they don’t know how dating progresses into something more serious) it’s up to you to take the lead.

It’s up to you to let the guy you’re dating have some time to figure things out, but also be able to take the lead in the relationship as well.

Taking the lead involves:
Meeting and introducing family and friends (your family and friends);
Planning time together away from the routine (small trips somewhere together);
Involving him and helping him decide what you do together (planning everyday together time);
Among other efforts where you involve him in your life that was, is and is yet to be.

I’m not saying that you take total control of the relationship. That’s a sure step to failure and break-up unless the guy lacks every ounce of self-confidence.

But you do help him to decide what to do, how to do it and steer him into the steps of real intimacy, real thoughts of a future serious relationship.

Guys almost always take their time deciding what to do in a relationship (that is, beyond the physical). They almost instinctively don’t think of a future with who they are dating. But as dating progresses there is a definite target to meet. And the guy needs to understand that a serious future together is your goal.

You will know when it’s time for the “serious talk” that leads to the “serious relationship” that results in planning a future together.

Women almost always have to take the lead for starting these “serious” talks.

When you want to keep the one you’ve caught you had better be prepared!

Christian Carter goes into this “Dating Psychology” more in his ebook “Catch Him and Keep Him”. If you saw yourself above, if you’ve “been there” in a relationship that went nowhere because the guy couldn’t see the future, you need to read “Catch Him and Keep Him” and be better prepared to plan your own future with the man you date.
Start finding the right man to date, not the man of “right now” but the man of “right mind”.
Download the ebook here and start reading into your own future.

And if you’re not sure, take the next step and read more about “Catch Him and Keep Him”. It’s not convincing that’ll help you to decide to download the “Catch Him and Keep Him” ebook, it’s conviction. A certain step to a more successful future with the next man you date or the man you’re dating now.
Start here.

To your future,
Robert Lee

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